Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

Health for Your Marriage: Be a Servant Lover

Posted onFebruary 21, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

When it comes to sexual intercourse, most of the world is telling you that it is all about you. It’s about your pleasure, your satisfaction, your excitement, your fantasies and so on and so forth. Either blatantly or surreptitiously, the message of selfishness in sex is rampant. This type of selfish perspective towards sexual intercourse has dramatically impacted the way that the average person views making love within the confines of their marriage. Something that should be much more than a physical act - for many - has been diminished to a simple and selfish pursuit of pleasure. Is this God’s plan for intercourse?...Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Love and Respect

Posted onFebruary 14, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

We are in the middle of a multi week series answering the question: “How can I find health in my marriage.” Last week we talked about creating margin in your life so that you actually can enjoy your spouse rather than simply run past your spouse while slapping five (or snapping at them). Today’s pointer: Learn to love and respect. In his book Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs provides some phenomenal insight into marriage and how the Bible informs our relationships. At the core of the book is the biblical idea from Ephesians 5 that men are commanded to love their wives and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. Why the difference? Why not simply encourage both to love and respect one another?...Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Make space by saying no

Posted onFebruary 7, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

We are in the middle of a multi week series answering the question: “How can I find health in my marriage.” Last week we talked about how the conflict in your marriage shouldn’t be about who wins, but about your growth. Today’s pointer: Make space by saying no. Unless you are the rare anomaly, you are surrounded by too much. I don’t just mean stuff (though that is part of it). You have too much going on in your life. Your kids have sports, dance, gymnastics, glee club, church commitments midweek, benevolence club, social clubs, and on and on. I don’t name these specific items to pick on anything in particular, but I think that you get the point. You’re too busy....Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Fight to Grow, Not to Win

Posted onJanuary 31, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

We are in the middle of a multi week series answering the question: “How can I find health in my marriage.” Last week we talked about learning to truly listen to what your spouse is saying to you. Today’s pointer: Fight to grow, not to win. We fight to win. Let’s be honest, you don’t fight to lose. Conflict isn’t enjoyable, and if you are the kind of person who LOVES to get in fights… well, you might have issues!...Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Learn to Listen

Posted onJanuary 24, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

We are in the middle of a multi week series answering the question: “How can I find health in my marriage.” Last week we talked about loving God above all things and prioritizing your marriage around him. Today’s pointer: Learn to listen. We live in a time where it is more difficult than ever before to be mentally present even when we are physically present. ...Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Love God More

Posted onJanuary 17, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

We are in the middle of a multi week series answering the question: “How can I find health in my marriage.” Last week we talked about changing your expectations. Today’s pointer: Love God more. After 13 years of marriage and 6 years of pastoral ministry, there is something that I have seen to be true 100% of the time. If my relationship with God is healthy, I love my wife better. When my relationship with God is weak and struggling, I love my wife less. When my relationship with God is floundering - I am not reading his word, praying, confessing my sin and growing - I am more selfish and more easily agitated. This is true for us as a couple - my wonderful bride would tell you the same thing - but it is also true for you....Keep Reading

Health for Your Marriage: Expectations

Posted onJanuary 10, 2018 | by: Pastor Bill Laky | 0 comments

I have been asked the question, “Can you help my marriage,” or some version thereof more times than I would like to admit over the past few months. My heart has been very burdened by these questions, because I see marriage as an incredible gift from God. I do not think that Gina and I are unique or different. I do, however, know that we were equipped with some reliable tools that have carried us strongly for our 13+ years of marriage. Are we perfect? No, but we actively strive for health in our relationship. I am going to take the next batch of weeks to try and give some pointers about how you can find health in your marriage with these time-tested principles....Keep Reading